The waiting game…


I love punctuality, matter of fact I think it is an integral part of my genetic makeup. I really cannot stand having to be late for anything, or being kept waiting by anyone (for me that is worse than being sick, hypothetically of course). The earth is a wonderful place to be in when everything in my life is in order, especially as it relates to time.

But here’s the sad part. This kinda means that when something is out of order, doesn’t come in time or is on its way for way longer than it should, it creates a lot of chaos in my life. I start to feel as though my world is literally upside down, my body starts to itch and every inch of me is a bundle of nerves. Sometimes I start to snap at people (if for any unfortunate reason they are around me) and I end up creating more problems than I originally had (in other words, having a bunch of people to apologize to). And do not get me started if that coincides with “that time of the month”, then its like Hulk in real life (a little exaggerated but you get the point right?)

Here’s the thing: I decided to point this out because I know that I am one of many women who feel this way, who are not very good at playing the waiting game. Now wait a second, before you start to blame yourself for it you should consider this: We have often been told that we do not have the luxury of time, that we are like flowers that blossom and die off afterwards, blah blah blah (meaning menopause). Basically, all we hear around us is that our clocks are ticking fast. So its not entirely our fault for wanting what we want and at the time we want it too.

On the other hand, it is important to know that there are ways to deal with the pressure (yes there are). There are ways to wait properly without getting frustrated in the process (no one said it will be easy though), it all starts in the mind. Your mind needs to convince your body that time will not make you wither, instead, it will unite all the forces of the universe to make you blossom. Stay punctual (please do not change that for the world!) but just like the serenity prayer, accept the things you cannot change in good faith, have the courage to change the things that you can without succumbing to the frustration it often brings, and pray for the wisdom to know how to handle yourself and emerge stronger through all of it.

I am of the opinion that women are impatient by design (mother nature does not really give us the luxury of time) but we do not have to remain impatient. We can break what is seemingly the “curse” of impatience placed upon us by investing our time and effort in doing the things that we love and staying positive. Remember, everything (yes, I mean everything) comes to those who wait, and everything good comes to those who wait with a positive disposition while making the best use of what is available to them at every moment in time.

The concept of time is man made, therefore we can use it in a way that works for us, without letting it turn us into grumpy old women hitting menopause before menopause. We can play the waiting game like the divas that we are. We got this!

TO DO : Take your life one day at a time, and know the difference between rushing  and working swiftly.

DAILY MANTRA : My patience will achieve more than my force.



A woman’s Sacrifice….


Then the Lord God made the man fall into a deep sleep, and while he was sleeping, he took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the flesh.He formed a woman out of the rib and brought her to him. Then the man said; “At last, here is one of my own kind- Bone taken from my bone, flesh from my flesh. ‘Woman’ is her name because she was taken out of man.” (Genesis 2:21-23)

Does that explain why no matter how hard you cry, no matter how much you multitask (feeding the baby while cooking and cleaning the house plus attending to work from the office),no matter how much mental, emotional, psychological and even physical(sad but true) pressure you are put under, you never really cave in or break down easily? Yes it does, because you were made from bone.

Let me take a moment to note down a few characteristics of bone.

  1. A bone is a rigid organ that constitutes part of the vertebral skeleton.
  2. Bones support and protect various parts of the body
  3. Bones enable mobility
  4. Bones give support to the body. (I got all this from Wikipedia by the way)

Now we can see clearly that…

  1. A woman (who is made from bone) is a strong (rigid) part of the body (representing both man and woman).
  2. A woman supports and protects the body ( you now see where all that concern and protection mother’s and women in general show comes from right?)
  3. A woman can make things happen and effect great change (positively or negatively) as seen all throughout history  and in our present society.
  4. A woman gives support to the body (pretty obvious given how strong she is right?)

Having seen all of this and gotten a clearer perspective on what the woman is truly made of (that eureka moment), it is clear to see that the woman is ‘sacrifice personified’. She gives all of herself, takes on so much responsibility through the good and bad moments and still finds the strength to smile through all of the pain. Talk about being blessed!

We are more than we make ourselves out to be. We are far stronger than we let on. We are beautiful, intelligent, brave, and we have the strength to do all, be all and still take on more. So wherever you are, whatever you are facing, no matter how difficult it seems, never give up. Hold on to what strength lies inside of you and harness it when you have to. Believe that you are strong enough to outlast and be happy through those sacrifices you have made and keep on making. You are after all, made from bone!

TO DO : Recall, at every moment of hardship, how strong you are and smile.

DAILY MANTRA: I am literally superwoman. Yes I am!